The last couple of weeks, I've taken mental note about people's expectations for each other. We all seem to have these images of what everyone around us should be, yet we don't seem to find it within ourselves to make those necessary changes. Why do we expect everyone else in the world to change for us when the hardest person to change is ourselves?
I constantly see people post pictures and videos about 3rd world country genocide and young children starving, sharing videos about high school bullying, copy and pasting statuses about supporting "the cause". I have always been very anti-all of the above. The reason why I don't do this is because I feel like posting any of those would be empty words. I always see these posts with captions such as "this is so heartbreaking, we need to help them" or something to that effect, but in all reality, do these people ever actually DO anything to help "the cause"? How many times have I seen people post a status or video about teen bullying, but the next day I see teen bullying and that same person walks by without missing a beat. That's why I don't post stuff like that. It's not because I'm heartless or don't care; I don't want to give off an impression that I'm an active advocate of {insert cause here}, because I don't want I've always been one to prove myself by my actions.
I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change
I'm starting to learn that words don't mean a thing to me unless they're backed up by solid actions. I used to not be the most trustworthy person, but I have learned over the last couple of years that being a man of my word gets me MILES ahead of the curve. Lately, I've been working on making sure that when I give my word of honor, it is law for myself. If I give my word of honor, you can guarantee beyond a doubt that I will keep my word. I prefer to prove my word is good rather than just say it is. I'd rather prove that I want to help teen bullying or hunger by DOING something. Not just making empty promises to people I don't know. I want people to know the real Alex Sanders. I want to be real to people.
I don't like that people put an image in their head about who I'm going to be or what I'm going to do for them. Without sounding too cocky or arrogant, I don't feel an obligation to do anything for anyone. I choose to do things for people because I want to. Maybe it's because I don't want to let people down, maybe it's because I care about the people, etc.
To be real to people, I have to be honest, sometimes stepping on a few toes along the way. I have a friend that gets upset whenever I tell them I can't meet the expectations they have set for me. But I would MUCH rather tell them I can't do what they want or need of me rather than telling them i can when I clearly can't keep my word. I want to come clean, straightforward, no sugarcoating and tell them "sorry, but I'm not going to be what everyone expects me to be, I'm going to be me, but you won't be disappointed."
I'm not gay okay? This commercial for Bleu de Chanel cologne (I'm really not gay) kind of sums up what I'm trying to say. If you really want me to, I will be that guy that does what you want, when you want, the way you want. You can have that guy, or you can have Alex Sanders; who while I won't be able to meet all of your expectations, and while I won't do everything the way you have it in your head that I will, I will always keep my word of honor, and I will be completely real to you. I'm not going to be who I'm expected to be anymore, I'm going to be me; 100% real. I'm going to be unpredictable.
AMS
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